How much is too much?
I was at the parlour yesterday, getting myself tortured for a fee, and with with only some (seriously) outdated magazines to take my mind off the pain. And out of all the movie gossip, women power and politics englightening ones, I found myself reaching for this health mag. Not because I have even one health-consious bone in my body but because of a headline that screamed out to me -- "Is your sex life in need of help?"
Hmm....I pondered...IS my sex life in need of help?? It had to be, if I picked up the damn magazine 'cause of that headline. See now for all its worth, I always considered myself blessed with a pretty healthy appetite for the carnal pleasures in life. However, my somebody special, henceforth to be referred to as SS has a theory -- "If we have sex too often, you're going to get bored of it...and hence bored of me."
My intial response -- "What the fuck SS? Don't be an ass -- there is no such thing as too much sex!" And after all I told SS, our relationship is not just based on sex. There's love -- mutual and in abundance might I add, respect as well as absolute enjoyment in being with each other (even when fully clothed).
And thankfully since both of us prefer to keep our respective body parts in their respective items of clothing -- adultery doesn't figure in this equation.
So my next question is -- "How much is too much sex SS? Is 'too much' getting it on like rabbits every time we get the opportunity and sometimes even when we don't? Or is it like a number -- 5 times or 9 times a day?
The answer --- am still waiting for one, actually.
Hmmm...so, if this theory holds any water, we have 2 choices
But really, can our relationship fizzle out simply because we've had too much sex with each other?! I've certainly heard of relationships that have died simply because "all the passion went out of it" -- Yup...seems like the burnout category.
Then there is the insecurity argument. Is SS so insecure about us that he truly believes I will get bored if we have too much sex? How can I then comprehend people who have gone on to celebrate 40 and 50 years of being together. I mean there are only so many positions after which repetition is bound to occur!
Am still grappling with this one.
Hmm....I pondered...IS my sex life in need of help?? It had to be, if I picked up the damn magazine 'cause of that headline. See now for all its worth, I always considered myself blessed with a pretty healthy appetite for the carnal pleasures in life. However, my somebody special, henceforth to be referred to as SS has a theory -- "If we have sex too often, you're going to get bored of it...and hence bored of me."
My intial response -- "What the fuck SS? Don't be an ass -- there is no such thing as too much sex!" And after all I told SS, our relationship is not just based on sex. There's love -- mutual and in abundance might I add, respect as well as absolute enjoyment in being with each other (even when fully clothed).
And thankfully since both of us prefer to keep our respective body parts in their respective items of clothing -- adultery doesn't figure in this equation.
So my next question is -- "How much is too much sex SS? Is 'too much' getting it on like rabbits every time we get the opportunity and sometimes even when we don't? Or is it like a number -- 5 times or 9 times a day?
The answer --- am still waiting for one, actually.
Hmmm...so, if this theory holds any water, we have 2 choices
- Ration it out so it'll last us our lifetimes - God help us if we live to be octagenerians
- Or just go crazy, and burnout in a few years?
But really, can our relationship fizzle out simply because we've had too much sex with each other?! I've certainly heard of relationships that have died simply because "all the passion went out of it" -- Yup...seems like the burnout category.
Then there is the insecurity argument. Is SS so insecure about us that he truly believes I will get bored if we have too much sex? How can I then comprehend people who have gone on to celebrate 40 and 50 years of being together. I mean there are only so many positions after which repetition is bound to occur!
Am still grappling with this one.
posted by It's me at
11:05 PM
7 Comments:
interesting question my dear it's me . i'm gonna go with the 'none of the above' option.
you can't get bored of each other because each time you do it, it's different and the last time has absolutely no bearing on the present time. and of course it helps if you spice it up and try something different from time to time.
look at guys, some of them go at it with themselves almost everyday. are they bored of it? i think not!
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that girl in pink, At
10:12 PM
I believe you can burnout, its happened to me. But, I would say only if there is nothing else left in the relationship. If everytime the two of are alone in a room and do nothing but jump into the sack, yes, burnout is a strong possibility
By
william, the bloody, At
10:01 PM
Very pretty look.
I think sex in long term relationships has it's ups and downs (pun intended.)
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Nessa, At
4:26 PM
that girl in pink: look at guys, some of them go at it with themselves almost everyday. are they bored of it? i think not! hee...hee...I must say you've shone a new light upon this dilemma.
But seriously, I think there is definitely a point, when boredom will kick in...that's inevitable. But it's how best we "spice it up" that makes all the difference.
p.w.f: I absolutely agree. Thankfully, there's lots more between SS and me, than just sex.
goldennib Well said :) and thank you.
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It's me, At
12:15 AM
everyone has a different limit ... you know when automatically when it's too much .. it can be too much for one person but too less for the other at the same time
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Nabeel, At
7:22 AM
hey interesting thought... my thoughts...that tho you may not burn out because of too much sex, withdrawing sex from a relationship where a large component is the physical element, makes you feel like u burned out the passion or lust or wotever it is u were burning..
By
Janaki, At
10:46 AM
Where art thou??
update pls :)
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Ar Ar Ar Arrrrr, At
4:30 PM
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